Conversations in Chastity: Getting Serious

cagedmonkey: We’ve found out so much about this lifestyle in such a short time. It really is amazing!!

Lady: It’s been a whirlwind that’s for sure… but I’ve realized some things since our last go at your orgasm denial.

cm: What things, exactly?

Lady: Well, after this last time having you completely locked and even denying myself I kinda feel like I’ve tested out all that I need in this. I really just want to get on with it. I don’t want to set dates of when you will be locked or unlocked trying to reach some imaginary goal. I’m not going to worry about “oh I shouldn’t unlock him because I said 10 days in!” I’m going to do what I want, when I want, how I want but you will not orgasm… you will please me and I will use you to please myself but you will wait until you have permission to cum. I will see my cock hard & play with it when I want though. All other times you will be locked in your device.

cm: I was actually thinking the exact same thing! We’ve proven that I can safely wear the cage pretty much indefinitely without problems – indefinitely meaning however long you want, not forever (I hope!!!). We have also seen that I’m able to be trusted not to cum when I’m out of the cage, even when giving you the penetration that you crave. The only thing that I’m concerned about is the strength of your resolve. Will you be able to deny me even when I’m seriously trying my hardest to convince you to let me cum?

Lady: I’m pretty sure the denial part will be a piece of cake! The hardest part for me was feeling like I had to keep you locked up to enforce the denial. That’s not true so it should be easy enough, when I’m getting what I need and want, to keep you all crazy. You know I absolutely love when you’ve been reduced to a heaping, begging, desperate mess! Oh boy, it turns me on so much! Are you here with me in my desire to take more control over how I want to use the cage? This starting out thing has been not only about me but lots of worrying about you and what you feel or think and some caving to what I think you want. I’m ready for that to be over.

cm: I’m ready, too. I want it all to be you decision. If you want to tease me until I’m crying out for you to stop every night for a week, then so be it. If you want to keep me locked up constantly for three or even four weeks straight (or more!!!), then please do it. There will be times where I want it to end, where I just want out, or I just want to FUCKING CUM GOD DAMMIT. But what I truly want is to cum only when I’m allowed by you, my Keyholder.

Lady: Awww now that’s the perfect answer from my perfect boy! ❤

I Have the Best Keyholder in the World!

Sorry to all you other guys, but it’s true. My wife is the absolute BEST keyholder in the world.

For me, at least.  🙂

It takes a certain kind of relationship to make this chastity thing work. My wife and I have been through a lot, but nothing would have been able to prepare us for this if we didn’t fully trust each other. When we are fully open and honest with each other, we often find that we are not only on the same page or even paragraph – we are on the same freaking word!

I think back to when we were writing out our chastity agreement. Even though I was giving My Lady complete control over sexual abilities (including the ability to orgasm or even simply getting a hardon), I knew there were some neighborhoods and areas I’d rather not explore. I was struggling with how to explain this oxymoron of a situation – “I want you to do whatever you want, but not if what you want is one of these things” – I was kind of worried it wouldn’t come out right. What a pleasant surprise it was when I found out that ML was not interested in those same things! Writing up our agreement went so much easier than I expected, and we were both more than happy to sign it.

My keyholder knows just how to play me. She knows where all of my buttons are and she presses them often. She knows that a subtle change in posture can flip the switch in my brain and instantly have me wanting to kiss and lick her body all over. And when my brain is stuck on sex, she knows how to push me and push me until my chest is tight and I can’t breathe. And when she gets me alone…. well, from her previous post, it’s obvious she can turn me into a quivering, whimpering puddle of frustration and need pretty much any time she wants.

And that’s what I need. I need a keyholder who will use me for her pleasure and amusement. A keyholder who won’t take my requests or pleads into account when deciding what she does. A keyholder who expects me to worship her mind and body every moment of every day.

Nobody else could do this for me but My Lady.

Conversations in Chastity: Frustration

(Lady and cagedmonkey feel that communication is the key to a healthy relationship, and especially important in a chastity relationship. Occasionally, Lady and cagedmonkey will shed some light on what these conversations are like. What follows is a discussion between the two of them, all while posting to the blog.)

cagedmonkey: So today marks a week for me in the cage, 24/7 straight except for a small release time due to switching devices. This is usually about the time when I start feeling the need to cum grow stronger, and the feelings of frustration really start to take hold. I’m curious: is this change obvious from where you are standing, or is it a gradual slide as the days go on?

Lady: It’s really obvious when you are physically showing your frustration and your horniness. It does seem to occur day to day and sometimes can be triggered by how much physical attention (teasing) I’m offering. When you are only using your words to express it I don’t feel your level of need, other times you are basically “jumping my bones” and then it’s very obvious. LoL

cm: The only reason I haven’t been “jumping your bones” in the last few days is because we haven’t been in the same room alone for very much time. If I had more chances to do so, I would be definitely taking advantage of them! Believe it or not, pleasing you and serving you relieves some of the frustration for a short while. But the feelings come right back when you turn the focus back to driving me nutty.

Lady: So you’re saying times like this morning when I come upstairs, wake you up and end up teasing you help your frustration level? 😉

cm: I don’t know if I’d use the word “help.” 🙂 But yes, it drives me nuts! I want to be inside you, feel you without the cage around me. It feels so good, and I know it’s so far away. You don’t even know how frustrating it is at times.

Lady: No, you’re right, I can’t imagine how frustrating it is but I certainly can imagine many ways to make the frustration worse.

cm: You’ve definitely shown that you are capable of increasing my frustration. When you let me inside your wet pussy but only in the cage, it is very difficult for me to be so close to what I want but still not getting what I need.

Lady: It’s very easy for me to create frustration for you but that doesn’t mean I’M not frustrated too! It’s not the same frustration but it’s hard just the same. Like it’s easy wanting so bad to feel you? Easy to want to feel that cock sliding in and out of my pussy and cumming deep inside me? Easy to want to feeling the warmth of your skin touching mine and the heat we create between my legs when we make love… that doesn’t frustrate me?

cm: Omg……….. what were we talking about? Oh yes, FRUSTRATION!!! I understand that you can get frustrated at times, too. But look at the situation: you can unlock me at any time you want and get the things that you desire, with or without allowing me to orgasm. Your frustration is sort of self-imposed; you can end it at any time. I, on the other hand, have no choice but to suffer through the frustration until you are willing to grant me release. You have to admit, those are two completely different experiences.

Lady: Ah true but what good is getting it anytime I want when I get to enjoy all the build up before I do finally allow it and/or take it? Living in an aroused state is a wonderful feeling… but frustrating still the same 🙂 Yes, if I wanted it, I could come to you, unlock that beautiful ready and willing cock and slowly slide it in my already wet pussy and make you cum within a few thrusts… but what’s the fun in that when while you are in your super aroused state you are so sweet, physically loving and mega attentive. Once you cum that’s all over for at least a week!

cm: Ugghhhhh…. how much longer until I’m out????

Lady: Well let’s just say you’re going to be a needy, aching, desperate mess by the time Christmas gets here and I’m going to love every single minute of it 🙂

Refocusing When Life Gets in the Way

The last few days have been very busy with regular old life stuff. It seems like we’ve been on the go since Sunday morning with Baton Competition, School stuff, meetings, doctor appointments and work. I noticed last night that I am starting to feel a sort of disconnect. I’m not all crazy horny, not feeling all that sexy teasy and really not feeling all that wanted.

I realized this morning when cagedmonkey got home from work that I really miss him. I miss being in the same room, teasing him and flirting with him. I miss being the center of his attention. We’ve been so busy that our time alone together has been very little to none. We usually get at least an hour and a half together alone at night to cuddle or get in some foot, leg, body or pussy worship. It usually depends what I’m in the mood for. What hit me this morning was, after getting the kids set up with breakfast, cagedmonkey came in the kitchen, got on his knees and gave my pussy a little lick & kiss. At first I almost told him to stop but then I took a breath, relaxed my muscles and just exhaled with a little moan. At that moment the tingles went through me and I realized “holy crap I miss this!”

That got me thinking about what I’m really missing over the last couple weeks. What it comes down to is me longing for the attention, the touches, the kisses. For a couple living the Chastity Lifestyle these things are now the foreplay. For a regular vanilla couple, the touches and kisses can be far less getting to the oral which is the foreplay. In the Chastity Lifestyle the oral has become the sex and the touches, kisses and licks, the foreplay.

I figured, as a KeyHolder and wife in charge, I would write a little description of what I’d like from cagedmonkey to make up for what I’m missing:

I will direct him to get naked and get on his knees in front of me. I will tell him to remove my shirt which will expose my naked breasts. One thing he loves is to do in this position is to lick and suck my breasts but, for now, I will not give him permission for that. I will tell him to take down my pants, leaving my lacy panties in place. I’ll instruct him to get the body lotion while I lay down on my stomach on the couch. He will kneel down beside me and begin giving me a body massage with my shoulders, down my back slowly making sure his fingers touch every part of my shoulders and back. Since I’m still wearing those ever so sexy lace panties he will skip massaging my beautiful round ass. He will only be able to look at it and want to touch it, kiss it and lick it. Instead he will move to the tops of my smooth thighs and massage his way down to my ankles, taking care that his fingertips are touching every single part of me. At this point, I will turn over to lay on my back and rather than making him massage my feet with his hands, I will tell him to worship my feet. He will lick, suck and kiss my toes and feet and massage them with his tongue. He will then continue to massage back up my legs, once again skipping over my pelvic area to my stomach and chest. I will allow him to massage all of the places around my breasts but not actually touch them. These things will not only feel amazing to me but they will be torturing him because he loves my breasts, my ass and my pussy, all of which I’m not yet allowing him to have. I really want him to learn that in this lifestyle the foreplay is just as important as the oral pleasure. These are the some of the things that cause the super wet, dripping, sloppy wet pussy he loves to slurp up.

Now that we’ve gotten a good lesson in foreplay I will allow him access to the parts he loves, one by one starting with my breasts. When I feel he has done a sufficient job at worshipping them, I will give him permission to worship another area that gives me pleasure. He will continue worshipping the areas I give him permission to before he will be allowed anywhere near the sweet spot. I know all this time he will be dying to make me cum. Getting so aroused by the fact that I am in control of everything he is doing and allowed to do. I will tell him what to do and how long to do it, I’ll even correct him and tell him how to do it if necessary. I know he will be straining against the bars of his cage, wishing he could feel my pussy, touch it, taste it. Desperately wanting to see and feel my body respond to what he is doing. To feel my muscles tense up and my pussy tighten as my breath gets shorter and faster. Hearing my inability to hold back my moans while he is bringing me to the edge, pushing me past and ultimately feeling the huge squirt of my warm pussy juice filling up his mouth forcing him to swallow a few times to drink it all down.

Yup, that is what I’m missing… I wonder what my night will be like tonight! :)~