Male Chastity, Life Struggles, Cuckolding and More

We’ve written quite a few posts recently over at our FetBlogger site. I’ve decided to give everyone an easy way to get to our Monkey in a Cage Chastity blog from here you can simply click our type in this domain name:

Some of the topics we’ve written about lately are Male Chastity (obviously), chastity devices, loss and emotional struggles, Cuckolding and if you missed the fun we had using the Doggystyle Stockade and fucking machine you had better get there quick to check it out! Haha

Even through some personal struggles cagedmonkey and I try hard to continue to play and enjoy each other. Communication is huge during ask of this.

We’d love to hear from you over at our site so please feel free to leave us a comment, ask us anything (we’d love to publish your questions!) Or just say hi!

See you soon!
Lady M & CagedMonkey


More Talking & Fantasizing About Bondage Equipment

Recently hubby and I have been talking a lot about some bondage equipment and boy do I wish we had the money to buy it and try it out. Anyone wanna get me a gift? Hehe Really though, it has so much potential for long term teasing, predicament bondage and even some humiliation.

If you’ve been following our journey you know about a local friend I met who we were doing a pseudo-cuckolding type thing with. For the blogs proposes, his name is Adam and he’s also who I named my favorite very very realistic dildo after. Well, he and I started talking again in the past couple days and I brought up this piece of bondage equipment. You see we’ve wanted to play in person with Adam for quite some time. Not that we are ok with me fucking another man – we aren’t – but that doesn’t mean he couldn’t come show hubby what a nice hard cock looks like when it’s stroked and cums. Especially when he’s all locked up in his steel cage and been denied for a month.

So last night I mentioned to cagedmonkey that I was thinking of inviting Adam over for some playtime. I told him if we had the equipment it would make his visit that much more interesting. I also told him I wanted him to take some time to think about what other exciting and deliciously evil things Adam and I could do in front of him and/or to him while locked into it. So here is what he emailed me from his assignment last night:

“as you requested My Lady, a continuation of my thoughts/fantasy from earlier – involving the stocks and you (and possibly Adam) masturbating while I was forced to watch – ways to make it even more frustrating for me by playing some porn within my view. You could be enjoying the porn while I’m forced to watch, unable to do anything about it, and you could do any/all of the following:

– force me to watch him jerk off to the porn
– force me to watch the cumshots in the porn
– stroke me to the same rhythm that the he strokes himself
– stroke me to the same rhythm as the fucking in the porn
– use my body to get off repeatedly
– edge me constantly
– or anything else you can think of

These are all such wonderful things. I’ve thought of a few others such as using him as furniture of sorts while I masturbate, pegging him while he is locked in the stocks – especially if Adam is masturbating in front of him, kneeling in front of him and (a big maybe) letting Adam cum right on my big titties… I mean, as I said, the potential there is almost unending!

I did email Adam to see his thoughts and fantasies about the whole thing, so I’m pretty eager to see what he says. I’m so sure my pussy will be completely dripping wet after reading his response. Just talking to hubby this morning, for the few minutes before he went to sleep, soaked my panties!

My Out Of Control Horny!

You would think this post would be coming from the guy in the chastity cage who hasn’t seen or felt his own dick in days. Who hardly gets a chance to even get hard, let alone cum!

BUT, it’s not! It’s ME who has a crazy out of control horny problem haha! It is to cagedmonkey’s benefit because he loves when I dominate him and make him be submissive to me by demanding he get on his knees and lick my pussy any time I get a chance. God, I just love holding the back of his head and pushing his face into my extremely wet dripping pussy. Seriously, my crotch is dripping wet today it’s on my thighs! If he’s not there cleaning it up as much as possible how else will I keep from leaking through my panties and pants?

This all started yesterday, cagedmonkey and I had a visit from a friend and the whole situation made me kinda hot. It was almost purely a vanilla visit but, you know me, I love to be a cock tease so I just had to make sure he left with a view to remember. He got an eyeful of my big tits on his way out hehe. 🙂 He told me later how hard he got and how it wanted to bust out of his pants. *giggle* that’s just drives me crazy because I love to know I turn someone on and tease them enough to go masturbate!


Now before you all get crazy saying we’ve said before that cuckolding is not our thing… it isn’t! Not in the true sense of the word. I’m not looking to have sex with anyone else but my hubby. However, if you read our post on “Pseudo-cuckolding” you would understand our boy toys are all about being used to make my hubby jealous that they can do what he can’t and desperately wants to… meaning getting turned on by me and then getting an erection, touching, holding and stroking their own cocks and cumming when, where and how they want. Now, me getting to tease, encourage and/or provide the visual stimulation to help our boy toys get to that point is just a bonus because I truly get off on being the thing that arouses men! 🙂

So, today, from the minute cagedmonkey got home this morning he’s been touching, fingering or licking my pussy. 🙂 I pretty much attacked him when he walked in the door. With his coat still on I pushed him up against the door and kissed him hard and deep. He had his hand in my pants almost immediately flicking his finger over my very wet horny clit. I finally let him get inside the house and settled and I went to make the kids breakfast. While I was in the kitchen I couldn’t stand the dripping between my legs making me hornier so I called cagedmonkey into the kitchen to “help me for just a minute.” I pointed down, motioning to him to get on his knees, he whispered, “yes ma’am” and did as he was told. I lifted my nightshirt, put my hand on the back of his head and pulled his face into the hot wetness between my legs. Ahhhhhh that felt good!

When it was finally time for him to go to bed this morning I went up to “tuck him in” and made him, again, lick my sopping wetness to a couple orgasms. I am just so damn turned on today that even that wasn’t enough. I had him get my favorite dildo (man I can’t thank the friend who gave me that gift enough!!) and fuck me nice and good with it til I came another couple times. 🙂

I think I’m satisfied… for now, but I totally feel my horny building again ready to drip down my legs. I certainly hope I don’t see an email from our young friend to cagedmonkey telling him all about how exactly he masturbated thinking of me yesterday. How it felt to hold his hard cock in his hand and stroke it slowly, then building faster and faster. Oy ok, enough of that Lady! Shhhhhhhhh!

I’m sure in a bit here hubby will be waking up to my wet pussy over his mouth as I sit on his face and make him drink up my warm wet juices!

Hope you have yourself a happy horny day! :)~

Male Chastity & Cuckolding

We wanted to write a post about cuckolding because a lot of assumptions are that couples who engage in male chastity are almost always into cuckoldry. This is actually not the case. While it seems that traditional cuckolding is more popular these days in the world of kink is not a necessity of couples who practice male chastity. It’s definitely not something we get into… in the traditional sense – which I’ll explain in a moment. Being a cuckoldress or “HotWife,” in my opinion, takes some emotional sacrifice. I’m not the person who can have sex with someone without some emotional connection. I’m also not into sharing my toys, but that’s another story.

So what exactly is cuckolding?
I got this text from The Daily Beast and I feel like it describes it pretty well.

Cuckoldry is defined as a wife’s infidelity. Chaucer and Shakespeare characterized it as the ultimate shame. So perhaps it’s no surprise that today it’s developed into a fairly popular fetish. The Internet is rife with husbands enthusiastically soliciting other men—often larger, hotter, sexier men than themselves—to have sex with their wives while they watch.

“The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you.”

This isn’t like swinging, and it’s not a threesome. Cuckolded men (aka “cucks”) only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that’s why they find it a turn-on: They’re left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish.

Cuckolding is rapidly emerging as the alt-sex fetish of choice for American intellectuals. Just check out the online forums like, where letter-perfect postings celebrate cuckoldry as a cerebral pursuit, transcending ordinary voyeurism and S&M as a dangerous game involving jealousy, misery, gratitude, shame, sharing, sublimation, lust, and trust.

Now, I’d mentioned that we aren’t into cuckolding in the traditional sense and that’s because I feel like this type of thing, being as psychological as it is, can come in many different forms. Our “pseudo-cuckolding” is more of a humiliation/jealousy thing in regards to the husband. Let me tell you a little about what the fetish is for us. And maybe this isn’t cuckolding at all but, whatever, did I ever say I was an expert? 🙂

So, for us, the thing that gets my hubby the most is knowing, in very great detail (reading/pics/video), about another having what he is aching to have. In this case an erection, being able to touch himself and of course an orgasm. Think about that guy friend of yours who was sleeping with every girl he could and telling you all about his encounters when you couldn’t even get a date with your own hand.

It’s one thing to talk about another man getting those things but what really drives this fetish home is having a “boy-friend” willing to brag like crazy to cagedmonkey all about getting hard, even morning wood, stroking himself and of course squirting that hot load of cum wherever he wants!

This is where we’ve made things interesting. I’ve made “friends” with a boy who is just a young horny little thing and loves to stroke himself multiple times a day. He also loves to talk and brag about that fact, so he works perfectly into my little plan of jealousy. What brings the humiliation and pseudo-cuckoldry into it is the fact that I make cagedmonkey email this particular boy-friend with erotic photos of me and he has to ask this guy to enjoy the pictures of his wife and to stroke his cock and cum from them. He then has to email and thank him for doing so. In return the boy-friend will then email him back to brag all about what it felt like to have an erection while looking at me, to stroke while imagining cumming on my big beautiful tits and then to explode cum from his cock in response. Even sending pictures of his erect penis, hand mid-stroke and end result. Videos of those things happening are also fantastic ways to frustrate my locked up man.

These online (and sometimes text message) encounters can be very frustrating and, at the same time, arousing to cagedmonkey. There is also great potential in making things much worse for him if there was ever to be a speakerphone conversation!

Could you imagine if we ever met up with this boy-friend in person and he pulled his nice hard cock out in front of us, stroked it and came? It just makes me giggle thinking about it. 🙂

There are many ways to make a fantasy or fetish work for you… even if you aren’t into it in the traditional sense. Sometimes you just need to think out of the box and keep your fantasies alive and kickin’. Then again some fantasies are better left in the mind and worked in words. Whatever makes you an your partner happy is what you should be doing!