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Thanks so much for following along on our journey.

Comforted by Control

I was a little disappointed with how our lost weekend went. I was really looking forward to having every aspect of my life controlled by ML (at least, what was possible, due to child interruptions). Work stuff doesn’t usually affect me at home, as I’m usually good with “leaving it at the office,” but this ended up being a particularly bad day.

One thing I will say is that the bits of control that we were able to do really comforted me and calmed me down. It wasn’t so much a sexual thing because my horny had been ruined by “dude’s bleeding to death” as ML put it. I can’t even really describe it all that well. Wearing the collar, serving My Lady, and following her instructions… it all just made me feel at peace.

I think it’s because that’s who I really am at heart. I really was made to be ML’s subby hubby, and nothing makes me feel better than filling that role. When I’m submitting to her, I feel like I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing. And although it might not fix everything about a bad day, it will always be that bright spot in my life that I can turn to.

Keeping It Real

In the past few days (and since starting or blog) we’ve often gotten wonderful comments about the realness of our blog. It’s comments like these that I love.

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Way back when we started this blog we said it would always be real (unless we’re writing about fantasies!). We wanted to document our journey as a married couple with young children. We promised to never embellish and always share the truth. I just love that people see that and appreciate it! It really just makes me smile so big! 🙂

Thank you for taking the time to read our journey, the good and the bad. We love sharing this with you!

A Day For the Lovers and All You Other Kinky Fuckers

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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My kind of Valentine's Day!

I hope you lovely people get up to some fantastic fucking on this fine day for lovers!

Our day has just started since that’s how it is when your husband works midnights and sleeps during the day. I can’t report any kinky happenings here with our “total submission” day yet since it hasn’t really been much. I’m hoping it goes well and we will have some fun things to tell you about how I controlled and dominated every part of cagedmonkey’s weekend. I should have run by the store while I was out and picked up some wine for me… maybe it would help kick this cold. 🙂 oh well, I’ll have to be sober and naughty!

We do hope our wonderful readers get up to some naughty stuff and enjoy every bit of it. Even if you didn’t, we would love to hear about your day. So please feel free to share in the comments! 🙂

What a Nice Little Surprise – It’s the Little Things

Pretty much every night, I pack up dinner for cagedmonkey to take to work. A few nights out of the week I will sneak in little love notes for him to find while at work. Most times they are in his lunch, sometimes I can sneak one in his work bag or coat pocket. I do love hearing that he found them and that he loves knowing that I’m thinking about him during the night. It really does come down to the little things in a relationship. Those sweet little surprises to let your love know you are thinking of them and love them.

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It doesn’t take a lot of money or actual gifts, though those are nice too. Just a simple note hidden where they’ll find it or even that phone call or text everyday at the same time to ask if they need anything. The fact that you thought of your love is such a huge little thing. 🙂

Like I said, I usually leave these little notes and I know cagedmonkey enjoys them. Well it just so happened that I had on a pair of panties yesterday that hubby just loved and couldn’t stop touching or talking about. He loved them so much that he asked if he could make me cum a couple times, right in the panties, before work instead of the usual panties off pussy eating. Of course I said yes, I do like to please my subby hubby and this was such a sweet thing he asked for. How could I not say yes to my sweet sexy boy?

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He made me cum 3 times, I do believe, before work so my panties were soaked. Just after he had to rush a bit to get ready to leave so I was helping him. I packed his dinner (slid off my panties in the kitchen) and helped him get his work bag together (and snuck said panties in a pocket I knew he would go into at work) and did our good bye routine. Yes, we do the same thing and say the same thing each night as he leaves and any time he leaves. It’s ritualistic and comforting for both of us.

Later in the night as, he and I were chatting during his break – which it actually closer to 2am – he messaged me how he found the panties. He was in heaven! He said he instantly filled his Jail Bird when he saw them. I just love knowing a simple little thing like my wet yummy cummy panties could give him such enjoyment and turn him on!

Of course I didn’t just leave it at that. I instructed him to smell my panties and rub his hand in the wet gooey crotch so he had to spend the rest of the night continuing to smell my lovely scent.

I really do love everything about being a cocktease.

Praise and Reassurance

So I just want to write that just as important as it is for us as women to get feedback that the boys like what we are doing, they need that same feedback from us. They need to know we are proud of them for being locked for us, for enduring our teasing etc. They also need to know if they are pleasing us with their behavior or sexual acts. How will they know to continue something I’d they don’t know ere loving it?

I find that having a submissive husband or even being dominant to a submissive man is just like parenting. I’m not saying our men are childish (though some sure can be at times) I just mean they respond well to techniques parents use with children. It’s just like you would treat a kid when you “catch them doing something good” to reinforce the behavior. So it’s important to say things like “it really pleases me when…” or “you’re doing such a good job with…” or “I really love how you are handling…” and even “Wow! What a great job doing…..” adding to any of those some hint at a reward is huge too. Saying something like “it really pleases me when you take out the garbage without asking… I might have to unlock you and tease you later!” No, you didn’t just lock yourself in and you don’t have to let him out but the thought that you might is motivation. It’s interesting how it works.

Praising and reassuring our submissives builds their confidence and keeps them pleasing us and striving for more of those compliments and possible rewards. It might be all about us Ladies (or dominants) sexually but it is about both of us emotionally. This is why I say communication is so huge. The feedback, both ways, keeps the relationship going.

Have you praised your locked boy today?