What type of Mistress (Dominant) Are You?

I just took this quiz called “What type of Mistress are you?” First of all I’m not a mistress at all. I am also not a Goddess, Princess or whatever other titles people may go by. I’m a dominant woman and I think there is a difference there. Before I go on with my post here are my results:

Congratulations, you are a very Sensual & Sexual Mistress.
You will use your submissive for your own enjoyment. If your submissive enjoys himself, that is OK, but you will use his body for your own pleasure. You pleasure comes first. You are not out to cause undue pain in your submissive but you realize that some is required for him to stay in line.
You enjoy being in control and you enjoy the pleasure you can take from your submissive. His body is for your use first and foremost.You have a healthy attituded toward sex. You enjoy men, but when you are in control, you will enjoy yourself first and then let him enjoy himself. You would not be a Mistress if your submissive did not also enjoy it. You are a Mistress because both of you enjoy the feelings of letting go and exploring each other.

So, let me start off by telling you I changed the wording in there to read “submissive” because I, in no way, have a slave for a subby hubby, which it suggested. With that said, most of that is pretty accurate about yours truly. I very much use my hubby to satisfy me first and then maybe, just maybe, he gets some, though that’s few and far between these days. I would say I actually do enjoy inflicting some pain because of the reaction it causes. I would also strongly argue that I would, in fact, be a “mistress” or Dominant woman because that’s just who I am. I may not be to the extent that I am if he didn’t enjoy it but that’s why we’re together. We are each other’s perfect compliment.

If you read the earlier posts here you’ll know that way back 15 years ago we had a Tease & Denial Yahoo group. Our little group had over 600 members and each and every one of them called me Ms. Aggressive. Even back then I knew I was not a mistress. Looking back I realize, 15yrs so, I was a very involved and very attentive Dom. We had chats, emails, tasks, pics, video and even audio. Not nearly as easy as we do now with smartphones and cameras at the touch of a finger, but we had it. I will say, I was much younger and inexperienced and didn’t have loads of information available in an instant like we do now. Being so young and naive cagedmonkey and I didn’t have a sense of priority or realize a contract between us may have been a good thing. As I mentioned I was very attentive and involved which meant a lot of time was consumed teasing other men and denying them when in reality the focus should have been on my monkey boy. Eventually we’d gotten married, moved, started fertility treatments to have kids and away went the Yahoo group.

What is my point in all that? I guess my point is that I’ve always been a very involved, attentive and playful Dom. I’m still that way now with my hubby and any other subby boys I may take on. I get to know them deep down, I create personalized goals and tasks for them, I keep track of them individually and build a meaningful relationship with them. It is not the same relationship I have with my husband but it definitely has depth and meaning, support and caring, rewards and punishments similar to my marriage. I do genuinely begin to care for them and what goes on in their lives.

There are some Doms or mistresses that require money for such services – probably a lot for something similar to the attention I give – but that isn’t what I do. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with it, by any means, it’s just not what I do. I like to be the dominant, attentive, involved, cocktease that I am for them. If I receive something for it, gift cards or homemade gifts or anything, I want it to be because I’m awesome at what I do. I want it to be because they appreciate me and not because I require it. I want them to want to show me they care about me, appreciate me and are devoted to me. It pleases me ever so much.

I think it’s important that a submissive know what they need as a submissive. It’s important that a Dom know what they need. I always say how communication it’s important because, IT IS! If you are looking for a generic D/s or M/s relationship where you get the same tasks and goals as any other person who buys them, awesome, that’s easy. If you are looking for an actual relationship, you can’t just sign into Fetlife and meet someone who calls themselves a mistress and expect them to know how to handle you.

The few boys I currently dominate, besides my number one subby hubby, I’ve gotten to know. A couple are in chastity and I hold their keys, those boys are also long distance subs so our interaction is limited to online, email, text messages, etc. All of my boys are required to follow my rules, complete my tasks and accept and complete my punishments. I get to know my boys and I take the time to make their experience very personal. I give them time with me, I support them and encourage them to become better men for their wives or partners or future ones. I strive to keep them healthy and functioning at their best in all they do. I will say that I have some very good subs and, most of the time, they keep me very pleased. I do hope that I do the same for them. I’m actually, publicly going to require that my boys take a minute to reply to this post and write a “review” or testimonial of sorts. I want you boys to really think about what it is I do for you and how it makes you feel. If you’d rather do it anonymously let me know and I’ll post it.

I do have a certain someone who’s a different case, not in chastity and who is local. That’s an entirely different dynamic altogether. Hubby and I pretty much Dom him together, though I am dominant to them all. I love it, it boosts my self esteem knowing how I help them, support them and give them that piece in their lives they may feel is missing.

Anyway, I’m glad I’m the Domme that I am, I’m blessed with a hubby who understands and supports me having these boys. It’s work, but I always prioritize my family and my number one locked up subby boy but I love every minute of it. Thank you to hubby and all my boys for fulfilling me and keeping me pleased like the good boys you are.

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19 responses to “What type of Mistress (Dominant) Are You?

  1. Holy smokes …………. I just finished reading this post, not sure what I am feeling. The topic, idea, concept, potential of there being another real submissive man actually in our life is um …….. I don’t know. What I do know is that my head is swimming and my cock is hard.

    Thank you Lady M.

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    • Ooo Yay! Ok, I have to admit, knowing you are turned on is getting me a bit quivery in the crotch. Haha I do love, ever so much, being a cocktease and knowing you boys get turned on.

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  2. Dear Lady M,
    I do love reading about your tease of Caged Monkey. It is with great pleasure I read about you having him locked up. I crave the feeling of being denied orgasm and locked up, the way you lock Caged Monkey up. How is it possible to be considered to wear a chastity for you?

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  3. Hmm. Mrs Edge comes up as Sensual/Sexual, which doesn’t surprise me.

    But this quiz is bogus – half the questions talk about teasing him and bringing him to orgasm. What about all of you OD fans who would tease him and *not* let him come?

    I started looking for similar “What kind of slave are you” but they were all stoopid, and made up by wannabes or wankers.

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  4. One thing I really like about you Lady M is that you are there to control, tease and drive me nuts, but you also know and recongize the whole person and what I need to be whole. Thank you so much for collaring me and owning me. I wear your collar with pride everyday as well as being locked in chastity for you 24/7.

    I am so honoured and lucky to be collared and owned by Lady M. It has effected my life in so many ways, with me being locked in chastity 24/7 it has truly made me frustrated and always wanting to cum, but it has also made me want to please and only focus on my wife & Lady M. She did me the honour of collaring me and I wear a bracelet everyday to show my ownership. I love to look at that and know that I am fully owned for life and will do anything to please Lady M. She does enjoy teasing and edging but also will and has punished me when needed. Not only for failing to complete task but also when I don’t do everything I can to keep myself whole and healthy. Not only does Lady M want to control and play with her boy but she also truly cares about the whole person, I can’t thank her enough for the effect and care she has put into helping me improve my life in every aspect. I would not be the person I am without Lady M owning and controlling me. I owe her so much and will spend my life trying to show her how I appreciate what she has done.

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  5. I am very pleased to be owned, and controlled by the one and only Lady M, Ma’am, keyholder, protector, and sometimes mommy.
    I’m glad that I was tasked to write a review about such a loving person. Some of you don’t know Ma’am the way I know her, some of you may know more about her, and some of you may not know her at all which is a damn shame. Not to mention she knows what she is doing and she is DAMN good at it. As Ma’am posts, she truly cares for her subs, and I am happy to be one of the few.
    She wants to know how things are doing in and out of kink. She likes to know my schedule at times, it helps her know when she can access me. Let me clarify, she is not one to micro manage but she does have expectations and those are to be followed. If they are not she will punish you and I know from experience you won’t like it.
    She is very thoughtful in all her doings which, not to mention, she spends a lot of time with her boys. I don’t know all her boys personally but I do know that I want to get to know them over time. I know that her hubby is a very lucky guy and I am thankful that he is so willing to share someone as great as Lady M.
    In this I am supposed to answer what does Lady M do for me – It’s hard to say that in a few lines but she makes me so happy, when I hear from her every morning just those sweet words “have a good day” make me smile. I feel protected and loved, I am happy that she thinks of me and I think of her all the time.
    It’s very interesting that I feel true power and dominance thousands of miles away. I am not only here for the tasks, or the “do this and do that” or the “x y and z” if you know what I mean. I am happy that I know her on an individual level and that she is part of my life. Ma’am knows a lot about me and she has helped me in more ways than I can count on 10 fingers.
    I could seriously write all night about this but that would take a long time to read, which I’m sure some of you wouldn’t mind. I must say that I am blessed to have Ma’am, the Lady, and M in my life and I love her more than words on paper.
    Locked with Love.
    You’re Sissy.

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    • Thank you my sweet little panty wearing locked up sissy boy… you are a wonderful sub and I’m happy to have you in my life too. You each mean so much to me in your own way. 🙂

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